In this age of equality, sameness between the sexes is emphasized as if differences have to mean problem. Well,differences can mean problems, but only when they are not properly  understood.

Imagine Adam alone in the Garden of Eden and you will have an idea about the way many men feel today. If the major issue for women is overload in their life-balancing career, relationships, children,home-the crisis for men is loneliness and the loss of women. Twenty-five years ago,most men came home from work to a warm meal, a clean house, the devotion of a gentle wife. Now the majority of women work outside, they are no longer the full-time housewives as before, so men are feeling deserted and easily hurt.

Women get emotional support through a network of friends and family.Most men don’t have such relationships; they are intimate only with their wives or lover. As a result, any lessening of their partner's attention may be thought of as rejection or abandonment.

Bob's wife Sandy has a full-time job, and he really prefers her bringing home extra income. Yet he also feels uneasy and troubled.“When I get home at the end of the day,wanting to have a talk with Sandy,”he aid,“She puts me off.First she makes dinner,then the kids need something,or friend calls her.She talks with her sister,her girlfriends,her workmates,but not with me.I sometimes do feel abandoned and annoyed."

Since most men have difficulty admitting loneliness and hurt,they tend to become angry instead.Bob's

constant complaints and criticism made Sandy confused and irritated.Eventually,the came up with a simple solution that met both Bob's need for time and Sandy's sense of responsibility to others.The first half-hour after Bob arrived home from work was “theirs”,they would sit together and just talk to each other about everything they want to say.